For me, it is easy to celebrate Mother's Day, 1) because I have a spectacular Mother and Mother-in-Law and 2) because they are both still with me to celebrate. I am truly blessed!
Yesterday we had our annual weenie roast on the beach for Mom. It is her favorite way to celebrate each year. She says it is the only way to eat a hot dog, once a year, grilled at the beach! Since it is early in the season, we usually end up wearing sweatshirts and enjoying an empty beach due to the overcast skies. For us, it is absolute perfection!
This year, I was reflecting on how easy it is to absorb and become the best of our Mother's. It is also easy to carry forward their not so positive aspects as well, unless we are mindful to let them go. If you have struggled with weight loss for a long time, there is very likely an internal self-limiting belief that is still with you. It is also very likely that the belief was an unknowing gift from Mom.
For me, I have learned, and keep reinforcing everyday, that is it powerful to separate from "food is love". My parents grew up during the great Depression when they literally had no food to eat. Mom says that many nights they went to bed with no dinner and that if they had a piece of bread with mustard on it, they were happy. During my formative years, food was very closely tied up with love and celebration and family, home and hearth. I have worked very hard to separate family love and devotion from food and abundance. I still face internal challenges with food. I tend to allow myself extra calories for celebrations surrounding birthdays and holidays, which are celebrated with family and love. It is all tied up together. The difference for me is that now I choose to be hyper aware and not have it be unconscious eating.
I am not saying that we blame our parents/Mother for our weight challenges. OH NO! We are the ones in control of what we feed our bodies and how we choose to exercise and nurture ourselves.
AND there is great power in our subconscious beliefs and how our lives manifest. If you know what deep beliefs exist within you, from Mom or any other source in your life, you can acknowledge the belief that may be holding you back and then release it from your subconscious. It is your choice. You hold the power to change. You can create new, more energizing and freeing beliefs to help propel you forward. Things like self-confidence, self-worth and believing that you are worth the investment of your time and energy to plan your nutrition and spend the time moving in a more healthful way.
This process takes time, requires patience and is about understanding yourself on a deeper level. So, on Mother's Day 2011, please take the time to honor and celebrate all the glorious wonderful gifts you received from Mom and at the same time, begin the journey of releasing any deeper beliefs that no longer serve you on your healthy journey!
Desire to honor and celebrate Mom. Dedication to go deeper inside to find your truth. Discipline to explore a new path to permanent weight loss success.